So… What Isn’t Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy?

A New Year, a fresh conversation.

With the new year often comes reflection, curiosity, and a quiet questioning of “Is this working for me anymore?” Our relationships,  our bodies. our sense of self, our intimacy.

And yet… when I tell people what I do, I am often met with raised eyebrows, awkward laughter, or very creative assumptions.

So let’s start here.

What Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy Isn’t!

Let’s gently bust a few myths

• I do not tell you which sexual position guarantees an orgasm.

• I do not only talk about sex.

• I do not touch clients (ever).

• I do not wear rubber, latex, or play the role of a dominatrix.

• Sessions are not graphic, explicit, or embarrassing.

In fact, most people are surprised by how normal, grounded, and even relieving the conversations feel.

So What DO I Actually Do?

At its heart, my work is about relationships:

• Your relationship with yourself.

• Your relationship with others.

• And often, your relationship with your sexual self.

Sex does not exist in a vacuum. It is shaped by our bodies, hormones, experiences, beliefs, culture, stress, trauma, health, and life stage.

Which is why my work often looks broader than people expect.

Women’s Wellness: The Foundation

Before we can even begin to explore desire, pleasure, or intimacy, many women need support to feel well again. I often say to women who come into clinic with low desire, the truth for many women when their wellness is out of alignment desire is the first thing to go and the last thing to come back. Sessions might mean we have to explore ways to help you:

• Reconnect with yourself after years of caregiving or burnout.

• Navigate perimenopause or hormonal shifts.

• Recover from illness, surgery, or chronic fatigue.

• Feeling lost, disconnected, or unsure who you are anymore.

Sexual wellbeing and sexual self often returns after we tend to the basics: safety, energy, identity, self-worth, and rest.

Psychosexual Therapy: Understanding Change

Most people do not wake up one day and decide to feel disconnected from their sexual self.

Changes often come from:

• Upbringing or early messages about sex.

• Trauma or difficult experiences.

• Hormonal changes.

• Relationship dynamics.

• Life transitions.

It is incredibly normal to forget, lose, or feel unsure who you are sexually at certain points in life.

Psychosexual therapy offers a safe, confidential, judgement-free space to understand what has changed — and gently explore what you might want now.

Couples Counselling: More Than Crisis Management

Couples counselling is not only for relationships in trouble.

It can support:

• Communication difficulties.

• Repeated conflict.

• Emotional distance.

• Desire differences.

• Navigating separation thoughtfully.

• Rebuilding trust or intimacy after affair.

Sometimes it’s about repairing.Sometimes it’s about redefining.Sometimes it’s about deciding what is next — with care.

Intimacy Coaching: Exploration, Not Fixing.

Intimacy coaching is for couples who want to explore their sexual relationship.

It is:

• Curious.

• Playful.

• Safe.

• Respectful.

• Consent-led.

This work is not about performance or pressure.It is about understanding desire, boundaries, fantasy, pleasure, and connection — and allowing intimacy to feel intriguing again.

Yes, it can be fun.And no, it does not involve anything you do not want.

A Final Thought

Sex therapy is not about being “broken”.It is about being human.

If something in this resonates, perhaps this is the year you stop carrying it alone.

About Michelle

I am a Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist and an accredited member of COSRT, with a strong clinical background and additional training as a Clinical Supervisor. My work is trauma-informed, ethically grounded, and intuitively led. My approach blends therapy, counselling, and coaching, with a focus on how our sexual history, relationships, and life experiences influence our sense of self and intimacy. I am passionate about creating a safe, non-judgemental space where clients can explore topics they may never have felt able to talk about before.

For further information please contact michelle@theyonitherapist.com.

I offer a free 30-minute consultation because choosing the right therapist matters. This gives you the opportunity to ask questions, share a little about what is bringing you, and get a feel for how I work — without pressure or obligation. It also allows us to check whether I am the right person to support you and whether this work feels like a good fit for you.